Thursday, January 29, 2009

Resisting the Urge to Splurge

Notwithstanding our spending behaviour, we characteristically suffer the temptation to give in to our impulses--if it’s not spending hysterically it’s simply another manner of malady. We fight and at times win over the temptation, but at others it wins over us.

I have to resist panicking at times. Just recently the worst thought (something almost inconceivable) crossed my mind and next thing I’m in a flurry. The worst of it was a loved one was in the way of this particular mini-hurricane, and an unnecessary conversation took place--after which an unconditional apology ensued. How regrettable.

Times like this we simply don’t think. We go on some awkward autopilot of a trip to anywhere but reason. We go off track; four-wheel driving on a scooter, and no wonder we’re bogged in no time.

What to do?

We back out at the earliest sign of impetuosity. We must or the forlorn awaits. Splurging like this, out of control, whether it’s eating, spending, or raging or any number of other maladaptive responses is a broken road.

Self-discipline is the order of the day, and self-discipline is a pattern, a routine, a rhythm. It requires inertia and momentum. It is at its core, in the M. Scott Peck tradition, the ability to delay gratification, accept responsibility, apply truth and find balance, resolving intrapersonal and interpersonal conflicts.

Let’s face it, life is difficult. We get stressed and do things we are later to regret. It needn’t be like this as much. Growing up and learning how to cope positively with what life throws at us is one of the greatest things we can do for ourselves.

We can actually resist the urge to splurge--and it gets easier with practise.

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