Like most who call ministry a
career, my pastime that came to a crossroad some time ago has now taken a
definite turn in a definitive direction. I’m glad of it. But it has meant I’ve
had to let some very precious things go… actually, that’s a process and I’m not
there yet. You may relate.
Ever since I was abused for the
first three years of my apprenticeship (1984 – 1986) I’ve had a solemn resolve
to be an advocate. Many times, I’ve been appreciated in this role, but not
always. And I haven’t always deployed the role right, in the appropriate ways,
or at the correct times, but my heart has endeavoured to be true.
My first career in what I always
considered was an advocacy role was in industrial
safety and health — injury and illness prevention and recovery. I always felt
it was crucial to my role to see where risk was and to mitigate it. Everyone
has the right to go home in one piece. I built systems and processes, audited
compliance, trained practitioners in the psychology and systems, responded to
industrial-scale emergencies, and investigated and analysed incidents. I was
trained to find the systems error and to endeavour to understand the human factors
where there was loss. That made sense. Eradicate the repeatable patterns, in
reducing the severity of loss events and the likelihood of them re-occurring.
Risk management in a nutshell.
The safety and health role had components
of proactivity for prevention of
incidents — before things went wrong — and reactiveness
for the recovery of incidents — when things actually went wrong.
My second career where I consider
myself an advocate is as a minister
(broadly speaking) within the Christian environment (now extending beyond the
church) also has a proactive and reactive focus.
The proactive focus is through the
peacemaking ministry, PeaceWise. The reactive is
through what I’m learning and have learned through counselling practice, and
through my own negative relational experiences. The reactive is more where
relationships become toxic, often beyond the reach of peacemaking. The reactive
involves abuse and trauma. Peacemaking requires reasonable minds that are
prepared to venture into the idols of the heart we all bow down to. Both are
needed in a concerted effort to restore the imbalances that occur because of
and through conflict.
Now, this may stun you,
but Christians don’t behave as Christians should
— we behave like the sinners we are.
That creates problems we must address.
but Christians don’t behave as Christians should
— we behave like the sinners we are.
That creates problems we must address.
Often people don’t realise they’ve
done wrong and think it’s all the other person’s fault. That’s almost the norm.
Through peacemaking principles, many can see their own contribution, and this empowers
them to seek to reconcile with their aggrieved party; to restore the balance
that was once a feature of the relationship, or to even create a superior sense
of balance, for mutual satisfaction.
Occasionally, however, no matter
how much help is given, a person or persons cannot or will not see their fault
at all. This polarises conflict and into the arena of abuse we go.
The proactive work is in equipping
Christians to negotiate conflict before they encounter it, so they can have a restorative
influence on their relationships. The reactive work is in helping those who’ve
been hurt, traumatised and scarred from either what turns out to be reparable
or irreparable conflict. Here, I recognise the right everyone has to feel
healed, and to be at peace within life.
This ministry manifesto outlines
what I do. I do what I do because we’re all equal under God. Yet, whether by accident
or intention, people go around acting like they’re more equal with God than they
are with others.
In conflict we become unequal, and,
where relationships are out of balance, life is wrong.
where relationships are out of balance, life is wrong.
Christ came that we might be reconciled
to God through himself. In a manifesto of commitment to work to the ends of “righteousness
and justice and equity, every good path” (Proverbs 2:9) for all, I continue
that call afresh.
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