In Australia, ‘real men’ (in their
churches) meet to reinvent ‘the shed’ or have a ‘pie night’. This is an important
part of male culture. It’s a time when men can be together and discuss their
weaknesses, and their addictive or sinful natures; in relative safe privacy of
their fellow kind. There is sure to be a similar process in other countries/cultures.
It is important for men, as well
as women, to congregate together to hear testimonies of confession.
The power in confession is the
vanquishment of the enemy. Satan hates it when we divulge our awful secrets,
because, ironically, we become tremendously empowered, as we are not rejected.
Indeed, we are ever more respected for having the intestinal fortitude—in plain
language, guts—to ‘fess up’ in the presence of our fellow kind.
But one step better than
accountability before a group is accountability before one individual. One individual has more power to affirm us,
and to gently hold us to account, than a whole group.
Choosing a Mentor To Work on Our Problems
Mentors are crucial in
discipleship. They play a critical role in leveraging our growth. And central
to our growth is honesty about our weaknesses—our struggles at a sin level—for
we all have them.
Think about this: if we have a
person who is perhaps 10 years older than us, who is someone we look up to,
preferably of the same gender, and we can trust them to hold our darkest
secrets, to the point where they won’t reject us, but are prepared to push us
to improve—we have our spiritual mentor. We can learn a thing or three from a
person like this. Indeed, they, by their wisdom, will facilitate our growth out
of these problem areas.
Where we have a will to improve,
they, through their sponsorship, will be passionate to help.
And the body of work we
collectively work on are the very things we will be confessing—our sins against
the Lord.
Trust will work both ways and the
power in confession will be realised by mutual courage and transparency within
the relationship.
Mentors are wise in this: they
know they will learn just as much as we will learn in being mentored. Not only
that, but they will be blessed to be a blessing to us.
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Confession has the power to crush
the enemy’s wicked design to ruin our lives in shaming secrecy. When we confess
our sins God, who is faithful, will forgive us our sins and make us clean.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.
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