It wouldn’t be an unusual
scenario in any of our lives to have a loved one or dear friend who needs to
know, ‘we are here for you.’
Such a need to hear it
only just shades the necessity to say it. Those who say with compassion what
others need to hear are Godsends. And those who hear what God has to say to
them through a caring friend are blessed to journey forward in a hope that can
only be learned. (I say that hope really does need to be learned; the need of
hope exists, yet it’s only when we experience
hope that we realise it really does exist as the resplendence of a truth we now
There are people in our
midst right now who are need, and we may or may not be aware of it. We may or
may not have the capacity to help them. We may or may not know what to say, but
be encouraged, we can always listen without needing to know the answer.
God seems to send each of
us into the fore,
of the person we know, unsteady and struggling,
right to their door.
Whenever we walk out of
our door expecting to encounter somebody who needs to hear ‘we are here for you’
we can expect to be shown such a person who needs to hear it. We walk out of
our door to be invited into theirs. It doesn’t always happen, but when we expect
it to happen we’re ready for such a necessary encounter.
You send the message, a
most desperate plea,
just don’t dilute the message, so we begin to doubt what we see.
We’re certainly aware of
those who would send the message ‘I cannot do this anymore’… some say it too
much, never truly meaning it as some who would never say it and yet take their
lives. All are implored not to cry wolf. Yet equally we’re all implored never
to imagine a person is.
We are here for you is a message for at least three people:
1.The person deep in their
need, enshrined in the need of support. They simply must be met in their moment
of need or something dire could occur. It’s anyone!
2.The person who has the
wherewithal to help. With the capacity and the reach to help, it’s our
privilege to simply extend our hand of help. Yes, it’s us!
3.The person we know and
care about that will receive help and we won’t even know about it. It causes us
to be thankfully grateful for the grace extant in the moment that we have no
inkling of. It’s someone we care about, and someone we don’t even know — who cares!
Imagine God training us
to see the potential neediness in every person we encounter, looking for it,
and able to meet it. Suddenly, we see the person as someone not to be judged,
nor envied or condemned or even pitied, but as a person, like us all, with
frailties. We meet them with a love we wish our loved ones, or even ourselves, could receive in such a need.
Like you, I hold several roles: among mine are husband, father, peacemaker, championing peacemaking for children and adults, conflict coach and mediator, church elder, a pastor if you wish, counsellor, funeral celebrant, chaplain, mentor, and Board Secretary. I hold Degrees in Science, Divinity (2), and Counselling. I am also a Christian minister serving CyberSpace i.e. here.
Have you ever thought much about the purpose of your life? (The message to the meaning of life is more urgent than I first thought.)
s It is to reconcile the inner discord within every single one of us. Most of us are actually somewhat blind to this. We search for peace almost everywhere but often miss the actual source.
s It’s about God. It’s about relationship. It’s about growing passionately toward God, worshipping Him via the things we think, say and do -- a commitment for the rest of our lives. At its essence, this involves a continual process of learning.