Sunday, March 23, 2008

“Times, Yes, They're A Changin’”

IT HITS. You are suddenly feeling all at sea with a change in your life and how it is presently affecting you; you simply can’t explain it, and for all your planning you certainly couldn’t have foreseen it was going to have this effect on you. It’s an emotional effect. It’s the effect of shaking you up in an almost unexplainable way. You struggle to discern the type and depth of emotion. You’re angry, confused, upset, and quiet all at the same time. For this day at least, you struggle with the bewilderment of life. How does everyone else seem to understand this life and yet (at least at present) you don’t? You hope it will be better tomorrow.
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You’ve actually been hit with an ordinary happening. It happens to us all many times in our lives. It’s the grieving process. It is the process of change catching up with us; it’s a reality check. It’s okay for most of us – we adjust, but it takes time. It might be tomorrow, next week, or next month, but we will adjust eventually.
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This just happened to me just now. Speechless in my emotion and awkward in my outward behaviour... this was my reaction to a critical family house move that threatens to change things permanently. I was at a loss to explain why I felt the way I felt. Words at times fail and don’t do justice to what the spirit within experiences. I wondered the effect on others in my family at this time. Some would respond better, and some would respond worse, though it’s a deeply personal experience, and no one is likely to ever know. That in itself is sad!
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The dynamics are changing. Times, yes, they’re a changin’! There’s nothing anyone can do about this change except simply accept it and wait for the process of time to alleviate the sense of discomfort, dis-ease, and in the worst cases, the pain – and wait for it to subside.
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Only today I saw a lady give a testimony in a church service where they could see God’s good hand in the death of a son, not a predicted death, but a tragic death. It was harrowing to think what these two women (mother and grandmother) were presently going through – the grieving and change processes were at an extreme for this family. Change no one ever wants to go through.
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The grief that comes with change is a horrible feeling. But that’s not where it ends. It’s only the beginning of a brilliant new reality that we cannot yet see. Soon we’ll be adjusting to ‘what is,’ now. And inevitably we will have adjusted. We have so much to gain from simply having the faith to trust. Trust that all will be well. It will work out. We’ll see.
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