As Christians, especially if we’re
leaders in any capacity, we have a task — to exemplify a fundamental, biblical
quality. We’re to be ‘special’ in only one regard — in how ardently we carry
our cross as we follow Jesus.
There is nothing more unique
especially in this Twenty-First Century day
than a person who bears their cross.
especially in this Twenty-First Century day
than a person who bears their cross.
This, we call holiness…
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There is nothing more common
than a person, Christian or otherwise,
who falls for the common deception
of their own narcissistic specialness.
than a person, Christian or otherwise,
who falls for the common deception
of their own narcissistic specialness.
This, we call sin…
The problem can be this, especially
in organisations with church in their name: that leaders and members and
attenders see their church, their denomination, their movement as
special. It’s a paradox.
This is because the only
specialness they can bear, biblically speaking, is they would deny their
specialness in favour of bearing their cross. Their denial of their specialness, their awareness and their rejection
of it, in favour of preferring the
specialness of Christ, is what marks them as special. Their behavioural
response will be to bear their cross, which is an uncommon glee that is only
possible through Christ.
The Problem with Specialness
“When a narcissist is exposed, their horror is
about the damage
it will do TO THEM to be accused
and they believe that others are failing THEM
by getting in the way of their ability to live out their specialness.”
it will do TO THEM to be accused
and they believe that others are failing THEM
by getting in the way of their ability to live out their specialness.”
— Diane Langberg, PhD
It’s this quality of narcissism.
Far too many churches and church leaders see themselves as special; inwardly,
within themselves, as more special than the church and church leader down the
road. Far too many Christians are ‘fans’ of popular church leaders. And heaven
help you if you cross someone trying to live out their specialness.
This devotedness to a particular
church or church leader’s specialness is sickening. In glorifying the leader or
the church or the message we fail to glorify God.
God does not get what God deserves,
and a human or human system
gets what they don’t deserve.
and a human or human system
gets what they don’t deserve.
Beside this fact, such adulation is unhealthy
for the humans and the human system.
for the humans and the human system.
In glorifying a certain leader, we
highlight their God-nurtured talent and God-given gifts, all too often without
highlighting the Talent Nurturer and Gift Giver.
In glorifying a certain church, by
making one entity ‘special’, we highlight what is ordinary and average and
unbecoming in other churches.
All churches and all leaders
and all followers of Christ are equal before God,
not for what they do, but for whose they are!
and all followers of Christ are equal before God,
not for what they do, but for whose they are!
The problem with specialness is we
begin to read and believe in our own press. It gets the better of us, because
we are all susceptible to pride. Any leader who has open reign for an extended
period needs to be doubly aware, because they are especially susceptible. (Read
the Old Testament lately? Nothing makes us any better than any of the sinful
rulers of Israel. As they were human, so are we.)
The Specialness we’re Called to
We are special, but not for the
reasons in the previous section. We will never get our heads around how special
we are. But we do get close when we open our Bibles regularly. If we were to
open up to Luke chapter 14, and read those impossible words of Jesus’ in verses
25-33, those words about what the Kingdom requires, we will soon learn the
specialness that the Kingdom values most.
The specialness we are called to is
the specialness that highlights to others their specialness.
the specialness that highlights to others their specialness.
How often do we succeed in
attaining to the specialness that we are called to? I can tell you, personally
speaking, not that often, which is a good thing. If I was constantly aware that
I was succeeding, I might focus on how well the specialness of the Kingdom works
through me — and that would breed only pride. See how tendentious and how
precarious this is?
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God knows we are all special. And
what should be obvious to us is the fact that our specialness to our Lord is
not a specialness we are to boast about. We are special because we are made in
the image of God. Every single person. And this specialness is enhanced only by
a behavioural specialness that sets us apart from the rest of the world — the
fruit of faith and repentance that looks not to self, but to God and to others,
elevating others for God’s glory.
Only as we live this life fully
devoted to Christ can we bear the full weight of our cross: which is to live as
if we have died, so that others may live basking in the glory of divine favour,
and may simply ask, “How might I die to self in order that another might live?”
— of a sense, using what has become a worldly concept, albeit uncommon, to pay their love forward.
Until we give up what we cannot
keep to gain what we cannot lose, we will never truly understand the Christian
life, and the abundance that has been set before us, with which we are to take
hold.
How will we know we are living the
true Christian life? We will know this when we are truly delighted in not
getting our way.
In order to reach this halcyon way
of life, we must attain awareness of those times and situations of our
specialness apart from God. These
truly separate us from God’s Presence.
Our Lord can only abide with those
who no longer wrestle and wrangle for their own way.
The moment we fully jettison our sinful
cravings,
is when God’s Presence fully joins us in the moment.
is when God’s Presence fully joins us in the moment.
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